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FOR AGES: 6 to 12
Valentine's Day can bring a shower of candy hearts, red roses, and "be my valentine" cards. It can also bring hurt feelings, disappointment, and tears -- especially when children link the cards they receive to their popularity or sense of self-worth.
Whether your kids are on cloud nine or down in the dumps, Valentine's Day can offer you and your family a great chance to talk about fairness, feelings, and the pleasure of giving and receiving. Here are six tips to get you started:
Feel free to tell your kids how you feel about Valentines Day. If it's a time you enjoy, share your excitement with them. If you prefer not to celebrate, talk about that, too.
Let children make their own decisions about giving or not giving valentines. Making these kinds of decisions helps them begin to take responsibility for themselves. If your kids want to give only a few valentines, suggest that they mail them to avoid causing hurt feelings. Negotiations like these, and discussions about how other people might feel as a result of your kids' choices, can help your children learn empathy. It will also get them in the habit of considering the consequences of their actions.
Whenever children come home with hurt feelings, it's important to listen carefully to what they have to say and let them know that you respect what they are feeling. Sometimes, in an effort to make children feel better, we end up inadvertently minimizing or dismissing their feelings.
A valentine card from a member of the opposite sex can evoke giggles and shyness from your kids. They might be embarrassed as well as pleased. However cute or funny we find these exchanges, remember that children's feelings can be badly hurt by our teasing. It's always best to take your cues from your children about how to react. Some kids like to share these events and some are more private.
Many parents like to encourage their children to make their own cards. Be sure to start far enough in advance so that there is time to finish the project, and be prepared for young children to get bogged down in the middle if they have to make a lot of cards.
Your child's teacher may require -- or your child may choose -- to give valentines to every child in her class. Even so, it's still natural for your child to like some kids better than others. Here's your chance to share your own feelings about giving cards or gifts in a way that avoids hurting other people's feelings. This is a good way to help kids begin to think about important life issues such as fairness, honesty, responsibility and generosity.
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[quote=crazy4ourkids
Your child's teacher may require -- or your child may choose -- to give valentines to every child in her class. Even so, it's still natural for your child to like some kids better than others. [/QUOTE]
This is what they do in my ds class. They don't want the kids to even write names on the cards just who its from.
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How does that work when there is a TO spot???
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There is a To spot, we just don't fill it in.
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I was just told that we would be doing the same thing. The kids only sign their names. Our teacher said it makes handing them out a lot easier and quicker too.
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Well I remember in school we used to decorate a brown paper lunch bag, and they used to hang on the bottom of the chalk board. Then one by one as the day went on and while others were working, you went and put your valentines in the appropriate bag. I kind of like that rather than the teacher handing them out. My kids aren't school age so I don't know how it goes these days.
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My kids have always had to give to everyone in the class - seems to be the norm around where we live. The teachers send home a class list, detail the rules etc. Our kids are always allowed to go around and 'deliver' their valentines. I can see how that can be crazy if the kids aren't reading yet, but somehow it works out...each time my kids were in K, there were several Moms in the room helping with the party, plus the teacher and K aide, so the delivery of valentines worked out just fine, despite any reading issues.
I remember growing up we made 'mailboxes' out of empty laundry detergent boxes...
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My sons teacher just sent a letter home listing all the kids to please just have the kids sign them! We did the same in Preschool last year. Works just fine and no one gets left out!!