Such examples are when you are with someone that you are dating and you are very tense physically. I am always very stiff when they hold me, cuddle, etc.
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try taking a bath together
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being out in nature is awesome, next to a babling brook, or in a field of flowers... lol just closing you eyes and thinking happy thoughts (although I'm sure you are happy with the person) is also good.
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just forget about everything and let your body melt into theirs. believe that there is no reason to be tense, if you dont, you won't go anywhere.
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well i do live in teh suburbs with not very much free time. tonght we went out for dinner together and it was a lot of fun and we shared many laughs together throughout the night until the end where it went down hill like always.
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talk to them about it
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wht do i say?
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what you told us, make them understand that you care about them, but for some reason you have issues with relaxing. If they care and truly like you then they will understand. I'm sure when you have that perfect someone, you will relax without even trying, maybe it is because you are nervous that you get tense.
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well i've found that person but i am unable to be with them.
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why is that?
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bc he is in a relationship and i am in a relationship currently too.
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maybe it's because you know who you really like that you feel tense around everyone else...
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but when u cna't be with that person then wht is there to do?
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there are two things... try to forget them (very hard) or try to get back with them (also hard) either way though, I think you are going to get better results then just letting those feelings fester under the skin...
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i'm just so unsure bc i just don't want to lose someone that i might care about and then i also do not want to get involved with the person who truely means a lot to me and ruin what we already have.
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I'm not sure how getting together with the person you really means a lot can ruin something, perhaps if it goes wrong, but then again maybe that shows that they are not the right one you thought they were. Again, if you care about the person you are with then talk to them, basically telling them what you said on here and what your feelings are.
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well see heres the deal, the guy who i am currently in a relationship with cares about me and i care about him and he is almost on the level of the guy who i feel comfortable with so i am kinda hoping that maybe it will get to the point where i am comfortalbe but i'm currently unssure.
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Perhaps with time things will become clearer. Still talk to them though, I'm sure they will understand.
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ok thank you
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but is there nehitng that i can do when i am in the situation and need to relax?
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doing things that you in particular enjoy, talking about things that really interest you, perhaps having out right fun the whole time and skip the cuddly stuff until you feel as comfortable as possible with this person.