even plan on getting married, then she started getting under a lot of stress with full time school, 30+ hours of work, and an harrasing ex that won’t go away (Don’t ask she won’t let me do anything about this personally). I’ve tried doing what I can, but she is still under this stress. None of which will go away. So she told me that she needs some time to think, and I told her I understood and it was fine. Now she says we’re just best friends, at least till this stuff blows over. She continues to tell me she loves me though, and that she always will, just like nothing ever changed. I don’t know what to do, I don’t even know how to act around her, I was never her friend before, I’ve only had a romantic relationship with her. Help?
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YOu need to respect her and give her that space. no matter how much it hurts you to separate yourself from her, you need to. First of all, you need to pray for her that her stress may releif itself away. You need to be there for her and be her friend. even though you have never been her friend and only romantic, you still need to at least try. cause if you really loved her, you would try anything.. "Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealouse or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. it is not irritable, and it keeps no records of being wronged. it does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenver he truth wins out. LOVE NEVER GIVES UP, NEVER LOSES FAITH, IS ALWAYS HOPEFUL, AND ENDURES THROUGH EVERY CIRCUMSTANCE." [1 CORINTHIANS 13: 4-7].. yoU KNWO.. EVEN IF YOU DO OR DO NOT BELIEVE IN GOD, it doesn't matter... you need to pray and ask HIM, casue he loves you ...and he cares about what you are going through.
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oh yea... and also, let her know that you are trying to be there for her. do not wait for her any more..and do not let her wait for you ..to be the "ONE" live your life. that is just being selfish to youself becasue you do not even know if SHe's the one God had sent. You need to pray, and you will also be in my prayers. Move on with your life, but hold her dear to your heart as a friend in christ, Jesus. I knos that she does have a special place in your heart, and thats goo, its perfectly ok for that.
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give her a week or two..or even a month...just a little space so she'll be able to think...advise her to unload herself if she had extra time...never forget to tell her how much she means to you before that "TIME" she needs...and be prepared for the results... keep us posted...
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Give her space, but don't disappear. Don't let her forget how much you love her and all that you will do for her. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, but too much time could do some damage. After a while, let her know that you need to know what she wants from you. Don't assume for months that everything will go back to normal. I understand you love her, but you don't want to spend your life waiting for someone who might not return. I hope everything works out for the best for both of you. For now, let her know that if she ever needs to blow off steam, she can come to you. Good luck!!
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well that sounds like a problem! ok if she isnt treating you diffrent then dont treat her different. be there for her. if she says you are friends then try to be her best friend that loves her and wants to be with her. good luck. hope everything gets better.
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Thanks for the help everyone, nothing has changed really, other than she started treating me more like a boyfriend again, but we're not going out still. I've talked with her about my own feelings on all this, and she was very understanding at how confused I am. I'll keep you all updated.