please. it’s a tough thing. english only has one word for love, so with time it starts to loose the true meaning. but to me that is so sad. a word that has such passion behind it. a word that not everyone fully understands or knows. i dont know if you really do love this guy, or that girl. it’s kind of a relative word. i’m not going to sit here and tell you that you dont because i really dont know… but think about it more. do you REALLY?
or do we sometimes use it in place of like, infatuation, obsession? i’ve seen that word thrown around so much lately. what happens when the word get’s so desensitized that we really do LOVE tacos? i dont want to have to use the same word that i use affectionately towards tacos to the person i really do love. in greek there are three words for love (more in other languages.) agape- communal love… love for people in general phileo- family love eros- erotic and romantic love this is just a rant. i know we cant all just wake up one day and say, “i think we’ll give love it’s true meaning back.”
and probably not everyone agrees with me. i guess it’s all relative.
but it still frustrates me sometimes. i write. i adore words. so when i use them i want people to take them for what they mean. even LOVE.
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love is sooo much more than a word..:)
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thanks for this sarah. love is indeed more than words.
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yes. that's so true. and that's why i wish the word still had more to it than it seems to now.. because it is more than a word. thanks :)
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I hear ya!! people throw that word around way to much!! i have never been in love and i plan never too!! love is a word that should be used very lightly!!
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I agree that people need to realize that lust, love, infatuation, a crush, and liking someone are different. On this site, in particular, people use it far too casually. Personally, I have never used it and meant it. I don't say that I love someone if I don't. Love can't come overnight, at least, it never has for me. I've been infatuated with someone, I've liked people, I've had crushes, and I've been in lust with people, but love takes something I haven't found yet. In short, good rant, and I agree.
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I loveed your post! ;) sorry... I felt agape for your post. Seriously, it is a very good post. But in truth Sarah I wonder how hold you are (not that it's important). I'm 48 now, and when I was 17 - 25... I was saying the same thing as you. I guess my point is... what you say has been going on for a very long time... and I suspect it will go on for a long time to come. Words are a cage that our emotions and human experience (which is VAST) are trapped in. Some are better than others in expreesion of them. Until we are a truly telepathic race, I will continue to use them the best I may... and accept them the best I may when others use them... they are all we have right now. bright blessings~ Richard
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same here xeno love just doesn't come over night!! crushes are crushes not love!! the people i only love are my 3 best friends of 10years, my animals and my family thats it!! you just don't fall in love after 2 months of being with someone or ever 1yr!! you just really like them i just can't fall in love with someone in such that short of time!! love comes from long relationships at the point of marriage(well even marriage these days some don't even have love they are just together cuz of children) so nevermind my rant!! let me think somemore about this!! lol!!
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I think the closest thing to love I've ever felt was with my best friend Tofu. We never dated, never even thought about it, but as friends, we were closer than I've ever been with any of the tens of people I've actually gone out with.
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I love you
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i hear ya Xeno!! the only reason i love my best friends cuz there like family and they treat me like a person not someone to use and throw around!! people like that are so hard to find!!
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LOVE IS JUST A WORD.. ALWAYS SAID.. ONLY HEARD... THIS IS PART OF A POEM THAT I WROTE ONCE UPON A TIME..... I HATE THE WORD PERSAY... I KNOW WHEN SOMEONE LOVES ME... BECAUSE OF THEIR ACTIONS.. NOT BECAUSE OF A STUPID WORD..
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i'm glad there are people that agree with me. i'm glad that there are people who can offer some wisdom. and i'm glad matt loves me. hah. i'm also glad that i can experience agape and phileo. and know they are two completely different... feelings? (i hesitate using that word because it's so much more than a feeling) but yes. actions do speak so much louder than words (corny cheesy cliche!) i'd like to hear the rest of that poem lil_bit_shi! it sounds good. i agape the people on here :)
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I think you have a very limited perspective of love. And like many words in the english language it does have more that concrete meaning. When I say I love a friend here on this site ... or a friend or acquaintance in my world ... I am not taking what I say lightly ... I happen to LOVE them. That means to me I feel a great sense of connection, good will, devotion, appreciation, genuine sense of personal investment in and concern for, respect of and would miss their presence if they were no longer around. For some people the investment of love does not take a long time and lots of knowledge of the other person ... some people give love freely and unconditionally. Is the love I feel for my friends different thant he love I feel for my children or a boy friend ... the difference is only very sutle. Now these kids who get on here and are expressing their new found feelings for others ... yes, it is love to them. It is powerful and moving ... it is real and it deserves to be validated. Main Entry: 1love Pronunciation: 'l&v Function: noun Etymology: Middle English, from Old English lufu; akin to Old High German luba love, Old English lEof dear, Latin lubEre, libEre to please 1 a (1) : strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties
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dietcoke, i'm not saying that everyone is taking the word lightly. i happen to say that i love my friends and my family and even pets all the time. i know that there are different degrees of love as well, also, different kinds. i would even say that i love everyone. i would say that i have agape. and i dont think that people who say they love someone (even a young person) should not be validated for their feelings. i do however, think that people wrongly misplace the words like crush, infatuate, blah blah, with the word love. i'm not here to say who is doing that or when or anything. how could i know a thing like that? i dont have a hard and rigid view on love where it can only mean this and that. i'm curious as to what you think i am limiting love to be.
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When a person is admist the experience of a 'crush' or an 'infatuation' in IS love. Agape IS love. It is simply a 'word' used by some intellectuals to describe a specific direction of 'love'. To say that people who 'wrongly misplace the words like crush, infatuate, blah blah with the word love' ... is limiting the concept of love. To exclude the experience of crush and infatuation from categorically being 'love' is limiting LOVE. I have never had a crush or an infatuation whom I did not have strong feelings of affection for. I still remember each of them fondly with feelings of affection. ie: I still LOVE them. Even if I haven't seen them since the 1st grade. That is how I think you are limiting the concept of LOVE.
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I HAVE IT PACKED AWAY AT THIS MOMENT... BUT WHEN I FIND IT.. I WILL SURELY LET YOU HEAR THE REST OF IT
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I WILL LET YOU KNOW THE REST OF IT
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i guess we disagree here. someone can have a crush on someone and love them. the crush is not the love. loving someone and being in love with someone is different. there is a big difference and the two are often confused or one gets thrown out.
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hey .. now I see a differentation of terms LOVE vs IN LOVE. Now there IS a huge difference between being IN LOVE jointly with another with romantic interest and LOVING someone. Though you can love someone romantically and not be IN LOVE WITH them. The difference being that one is romantically loving someone without recipricol romantic love. (This has a tendency to be hugely painful due to expectation of reciprocity) Though one can romantically love someone without reciprocity and without pain. I believe some call this unconditional love or even TRUE love. Tis all love none the different to me. Some would say that romantically loving someone with expectations of reciprocity is not love at all but a need for a selfish return on the investment of emotion ie: ego validation of loveablity - which would not be love at all but a fullfillment of an ego based need for validation of self (ego). So, anyway ... maybe where we agree here is with the differentation of being IN LOVE and LOVE . It is my opinion that the highest purest experience of love would be to be IN UNCONDITIONAL 'romantic' love, both partners NOT coming from an ego based need of validation (reciprocity) yet both authentically 'IN LOVE' and loving each other. That to me is the ideal, and is very, very RARE. Great post, and thank you for stimulating me to think of this in greater depth. I still contend that the basis and fundemental aspects of 'love' remain the same ... maybe when love is placed in the 'in love' state it is actually synergistic in nature and become more than what it is singularly, therefore 'feels' different.