A continuation of the post here post/99068-how-do-i-b... So in a random turn of events, she ended up breaking up with me last night. At first I was relieved, but she shortly made it a note to tell me that it was because she felt I didn’t love her as much as her last boyfriend, and she was going back to him. I would have been fine with this, had I not known the terms of her last relationship. About a week after she started dating him, her family welcomed him to their home, where he lived for a length of time. He began smothering her with affection to the point where, on numerous occasions, she would tell me that it was starting to creep her out. The relationship ended when he suddenly moved out to pursue a career so they could live alone together, and, for one reason or another, decided to completely abandon her. About two months of her crying on my shoulder about it led to her decision to try dating me. I was in college and living far enough away that visits were, unfortunately, few and far between. We had agreed beforehand that we would bear it until I had made enough money from work to make visits much more regular. And so we return to last night. Out of nowhere, she tells me that she felt I didn’t care for her because I wasn’t around her as much as her last boyfriend was before he left her. She told me she loved him more because he ‘was willing’ to spend more time with her, to which I responded by reminding her that I was finally starting work again and would be able to. I brought up his leaving her, and she told me that she thought he’d change if she came back to him. I really have no idea what I should say or do to keep her from going back to a guy who hurt her. Was she spoiled by his constant affection, that she’d go back for a quick fix despite the risk of being hurt again? Or should I just leave her to her decision, and hope for the best?
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I think you deserve a girl much better than her . She is still stuck on her ex & she is taking you as a person who might fell the gap her ex left in her heart ( sorry to say that ). If she really loves you she won't compare you to her ex , she would love you as you are , she would comfort you & wait for you to spend time with you instead of fighting . I'm just wondering why do you let her decide what will happen on your relationship ?! why don't you decide also ?! it is so obvious that you are not comfortable with the way she is handling the relationship so step up & say what is in your heart towards her & tell her how you want her to treat you . I'm sorry to say what I'm about to say but I think she is abusing you because she is so sure that you love her so much , but does she loves you the same as you love her ?!.. I don't think so . It is so hard to break up with someone you love but you have to ask yourself if you deserve someone better than her ? If you are really feeling that she is the one ? Can you spend your life with someone who wishs to be with another guy but unfortunity she couldn't ? DO YOU WANT TO BE HER SECOND BEST CHOICE ?
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i agree with nextstar second best is not alright. also she seems all over the place and doesnt know what to do. and when i read this "she thought he’d change if she came back to him" o man is she in trouble. try to take the Best friend part from now on and move on.
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Hah. She just called me now. "Guess who's here with right now."
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Well at least I won't have to worry about wanting a relationship for a few more years.
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guess who's here with right now??? i dont understand
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Was a mistype, and there's no edit button that I can see "Guess who's here with me right now." was the intention.
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who was there with you... dont tell me it was the old boyfriend
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Let nature take its course! she'll learn her lesson.