parents dont want them dating or calling each other and i dont know how to help her so can you help me help her
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I'm sure there's a good logical reason why her parents don't want her dating those guys or having them call each another. I guess it all depends on the age of this friend of yours. The parents don't want these guys taking advantage of her and getting her pregnant someday, especially while she is still young and living at home. I'm sure the parents have good reasons for telling their daughter . . . no boyfriends and no having all these guys calling to arrange dates. I'm not going to give advice that is against what's in her parents best interest. They want to keep their daughter out of trouble and I don't blame them. She is going to have to accept the rules while living with her parents. Maybe they see these guys as being trouble and her parents are being protective of their daughter. I am a dad and I am protective of my daughter. My wife and I know what's best for her at her age right now and she respects us for it. There's so much careless sex going on amongst teens these days and they still depend on their parents to provide a roof for them, food and clothing and allowance and yet they think they are mature enough to bring a child into this world. What I don't like is when some of them have a baby and the guy takes off and doesn't take responsibility for the child he helped bring into this world. Or a girl who expects her mom & dad to bring up her baby because it's too much work for her at a young age and she doesn't want to miss out on all the partying with her friends. Obviously too immature to have a baby. Even some adults out there are too immature and irresponsible to be having kids. I applaud the girls who ARE responsible when having a baby at a young age and also some of the guys who take responsibility and work to help provide for the child. I just have a problem with those youth who fool around carelessly with sex, but have no clue on how to live on their own and be responsible for supporting themselves in the REAL world along with having to bring up a baby. Kids giving birth to kids is how it really looks. Like it's some game. So yeah, I think your friend's parents are doing what's best for their daughter for now and she is gonna have to accept it. Maybe they think it's crazy that all these guys are calling all the time. Maybe if it was just ONE guy calling and they could actually meet him and have him over for some meals to get to know him and build some trust, then maybe they would be willing to allow her a boyfriend. But when they see all these guys wanting their daughter, it probably makes them feel uneasy about it and thus they end up having to say NO to the idea of her dating. Maybe some of those guys are only interested in one thing if you know what I mean. So the parents are doing what's best for her for now. So yeah, tell her to listen to her parents and learn to accept their rules. Then, when they feel she's mature enough and responsible enough, then maybe they will consider letting her date a mature and responsible guy. Hopefully one who can keep his pants on. hope this helps :)