The Mrs Ran out on me because i had a few Addiction Problems (Wont go into details but not as bad as u maybe thinking) and Neglected the best thing that has/will ever happen to my life (her)….. I love her with all my heart n then some… and i know she loves me… I believe we were meant to b… We have spoken to each other a few times since, and i just end up crying like a baby for the boob. I would do ANYTHING to get her back, She has a history of running away then coming back after a 1-2 weeks.. in 6 years she has Run 7 times.. but always came back… this time is diffrent has been 2 months and im kicking myself that this could possibly be the end…. I messed up. How can i get back the only thing in my life that matters? My addictions are a thing of the past… Any Advice or Feedback would be appreciated
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as long as you've got your addiction under control and you're sure that's the only problem then I don't see why you shouldn't be able to get back together with her. If that was her only reason for leaving and that problem is fixed then...well it really is just that simple. but for her to leave 7 times, I have a feeling that either there are more problems then your addictions or you this isn't the first time your addictions have been "a thing of the past". If you really love her, you'll do what you need to do.
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Communication would be another problem... being the typical male i usually "shut off" or "zone out" when she is confronting me or telling me something i dont wanna hear, and i acknowledge this to be a Huge Problem i have... i have 2 jobs but still cant afford counciling, I realize i have this problem and i want to fix it, in Saying that i believe im on right path... Thanks Baileyrinehol
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Well as it seems we are facing the same situation, we do differ. I hope everything works out for you my man, we do crazy things for the ones we love. I asked my fiance via text message how she feels about us now and her reply was "I don't know." Sometimes you have to pull yourself up by your bootstraps put the booze and drugs down and fight the good fight. When you fall, stand tall and come back for more.
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Maybe staying with a program (depending what your addiction issues were) that helps people stay clean/sober/whatever over the long term would help her trust you. I believe you when you say it's a thing of the past, but maybe it would help her get over past hurt if she knew you were doing something like that just to show her how much you care about her and want to make it work. and if communication is a problem, try to get out the important stuff the old fashioned way... write it down! sometimes it's easier to write or email stuff that you can't say in person. Tell her how you feel, show her you're committed to change, give her TIME to come around, and then whatever happens respect her descisions, is probably the best way to go about it. good luck!
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Thank u Robin, Everything u have written has helpd Immensly.. i consider this a form of counciling kinda.. and yeah.. its the truth when i say i have my addictions under control... and it will continue for the rest of my life... i will never make the same mistake again... i deffinantly would like to see a professional... but atm this will have to do... thanks again :)
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Ooo Update, she rang me up last night and asked if we could do dinner n a Mooovie.. and i heard Cuteness In her voice that i havent heard for 4 months... *Shakes his magic 8 ball* "Outlook is Good"
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Turns out was just mind games... U win some u lose some.