I just turned 18 over the summer.and my life has been pretty fun.i moved away,came back,met great people,and have just been enjoying myself.I recently made a big decision,i joined the marines. I did all the testing and the oath behind their backs,i doubt my parents even know ive ever even thought about it. I leave in early january for boot camp.
I just dont know how to tell them what i did,i know they both detest the military.Please help.
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wow im sorry to tell you this but u messed up big time. have fun at camp its sooo much fun!
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Well.... the sooner the better, putting off telling them just delays the inevitable. Just say, Mom, Dad, I've joined the Marines. Simple. Then be prepared to tell them why you didnt tell them, and deal with how upset they are.
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You need to just tell them. Don't think about it any longer, just do it! It has to be done so there is no point stressing about it.
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I feel that you have stood up for yourself and have done what you wanna do. If they are good parents they will listen and understand your decision. I'm a former military member myself and i had a hard time convincing my parents that the military was the best option for me coming out of high school. My point is, after months and months of arguing they finally gave in and said they were proud of my decision. I agree with sherryn that you shouldn't put off telling them though. Holding back things for too long can upset just about anybody. Anyways, hope this helps and be proud of yourself for standing up for your country. Good Luck with everything.
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Wow. I would think "detest" would be reserved for occupations like "drug addict" and "convicted felon". The Marines, regardless of what George Bush has done with them, is an honourable profession. Speaking of GWB, perhaps they simply disagree with the politics of the military? If that's the case, I would consider paraphrasing your decision with the reasons that it could be right for you and seriously help you in your life. That way they wouldn't feel as though you've sold your soul to the wrong side, but are simply trying to make something of yourself, which they can't really take that much offense to.
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You need to tell them right away. You made a grown up decision now it is time to act like a grown up. Show them that you are all grown up and responsible by talking to them open,honestly, and respectful manner. Let them why and how you came to this decision. I am sure they will want to know why you made such an important decision without asking for their advice or input. If they react in an irrational manner, it is because they are scared. Do NOT allow your emotions to escalate the situation, stay calm. Allow them time be scared and work through their emotions. In the end, they will be proud of you and your decision
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there are so many doors you have to open in your life, this was one of them its your life ,you made the decision and you are old enough ,now the same way you made the decision go to your parents and just tell them ,when you are old and grey and you come to the last door and it tells you that is the wrong way ,you never going to make it back to the first door, remember this its your life....
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TJ has a great point. But when you sit down to discuss your honorable decision with your parents, point out the key points on why you want to and the great things you'll be benefiting from the Marines. You have shown a very respectable side of integrity and I admire you for your decision. Your life's ambition and goals are YOUR CHOICE ONLY! Because you are the only person that can make yourself happy, not even your parents. Take your time and think it out, and thank you for your admiration of this country. We may not always agree with each decision, but we are still united and no other country can take that. Thanks again and good luck. I'm here if you need to talk at whatever time.
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LOL...I did the same thing 5 years ago...I am still in the Marines today! I remember when I told my mom she was going crazy, and was all crying and stuff, and did not respect my decision AT ALL, but then I left for boot camp and asked her to come to my graduation ceremoney, which she did, and really from then on, she was just proud of me for serving my country, and finding a way to make it on my own in this crazy world. She still wants me to come and get out of the Marine Corps this time, instead of reenlisting or extending my contract again, but overall she thnks it's cool that I am a Marine now, and likes to talk about me with all her friends, and show me off as her son..."The Marine." Ha, just tell them that you ARE doing this, and that you'd like their support, because it's going to be tough, and family support is very important, especially at the early stages of boot camp and military life.