This is my problem. The days drag on and my torment grows, I know not how to adress it. Women are my fancy but my peers are as well. The glow of youth hardly tempers my logic, such boys my heart desires but is repulsed of as well. How can one bear the torments of such frenzied thoughts?
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have you talked to anyone about this?
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No, no I haven't. Its something that I struggle with internally.
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Sometimes the only way people can truly win something is to fight it in the open. Just something to keep in mind, about anything in life. Not really sure what else to say, sorry. But I'm here if you want someone to talk to.
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Thank you Hope. You see, the problem is that I don't know what to make of this. Its High School so bear with me. I am definately into girls, that is certain, and sometimes I feel an attraction to the boys too. None really in my grade but younger ones in the school. Its one heck of a problem.
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As long as they are within a reasonable age to you, I don't think it's necessarily a problem, Anon. You might be bisexual and that is simply who you are. There's no shame in being oneself, so long as it does not cause intentional harm to others. Your friends might not respond to this right now, but in time as people grow wiser and more mature, that might change. For now, my best advice is to work on being happy with who you are. If you truly feel that these thoughts or attractions are disturbing to you, then my best and honest advice is to seek professional help while you can. The sooner you address what issues you may have, the better you will begin to feel about your life as a whole. Good luck.
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Thanks Tee, it is a reasonable age. I shudder to think what my family would think if I were bisexual.
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I fear about how to act on my feelings, that is a tough part.
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You will never please all of the people all of the time, especially when those people are your relatives. And you don't have to act on your feelings to have them. I've known what seems like 100's of girls that I've never been able to ask out and it has always worked out OK. When the time is better, you may find that opportunities begin to open up for you that you never expected. For now, perhaps just work on exploring your own feelings and becoming OK with who you are.
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And stop conceptualizing of your feelings as "shameful". That helps no one in this scenario, least of all you.
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I agree with TeeJay, you won't please everyone, but you can please yourself and stop trying to fight who you are, try and learn to like yourself before you worry about what other people think.