I wanted to know you’re opinion on what i should do. Though out my whole life i havent had this problem. Well my Current boyfriend is sooo much like my father. This is a big problem for me becuase I love my boyfriend really badly, but i also hate my father dearly and never want to see him again. I dont think about my boyfriend that way though. so what’s my problem?
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Id it just the drugs that remind you of your father or does he have a similar personality?
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hello, It's very possible that until you come to terms with what you dislike so strongly about your father that you will unintentionally find yourself attracted to men that remind you of him. It sounds like you are very angry with your father but you could be hurting yourself unecessarily by stubbornly spending so much energy hating him so much. It's true he perhaps wasn't a good father but by forgiving him you are loving yourself and setting yourself free from the hate that affects you and your relationships. Have you asked your mother for her insight/opinion? If you are close to her or if she is in your life she may be the best person to go to for advice even if you don't want to talk to her about this. Afterall she knows you and she knew your father...chances are if she is in your life she knows your boyfriend as well. If your boyfriend is an alcoholic, obsessive gambler or abusive to you GET OUT NOW...no need to analyze just get out and get counseling. No need to re-live what you already suffered through. i wish you the best. jaymie