He broke up with me over 12 years ago. He put a restraining order on me to move his new girlfriend in my house. I left with my things and never talked to him again for the length of restraining order. After that he won’t stop calling me. For the past 12 years he has called me, came over to my house leaves things on my steps, moves things around my house so i know he has been here. When he calls he tells me he misses me and how deeply he loves me. then throws me away again. He is still with the girl he moved in and he married her. I figured i would never hear from him again, but he called me again. He tells me he misses me, he thinks about me all the time, all the things we did together, he blames me for the break up, and says its all my fault cause we could be married now, etc. He surrounds himself with things that remind him of me. Then he throws me away again. I told multiple times that I don’t want to talk to him anymore if the woman is not gone. he talks to me like we have a life together. But he never does anything to change his situation. I don’t know what to do, I am really not taking this last call to well, I send a letter telling him that I want All or none. I am not in a relationship now, but I just can’t deal with someone calling my up when he wants to tell me he loves me and misses me and thinks about all the time, then leaves me hanging. I want it back, but I don’t know what to do to get it back, its like all the feelings are there but the actual actions aren’t. Please help me.
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I would let him go. He sounds kinda psycho. But... I guess if you really like him the next time he calls him tell him to seriously think about what he is doing to the both of you. If you think you really love this dude then explain to him that you're still open but that he REALLY needs to make a descision or you're out. & if he either picks the other girl/says he doesn't know then it is time to part ways. & if he's in your house you should seriously get a restraining order because that shiznit is weird.
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I have done that he won't leave me alone. I have told him I am not talking to him anymore if the girl is still there. So then he calls his sister to call me and make her feel all sorry for him and she gives my number. I try not to answer the phone, if I don't he won't stop calling over and over all night, then I am afriad he will come over and I didn't want that either. So I don't know what to do, He either has to leave me alone so I can move on or He needs to make the decision to leave her. I know now that he will not leave me alone, if he can't get married and leave me alone then he will never.
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Why are you wasting you life on this ? There are many fish in the sea. There is a lot of fun to be had. Why are you entertaining him ? It would be a massive mistake to take him back. If he is not dis-respecting you he is disrespecting his wife. Here is the problem. He cheated, he then got married. That's what HE wanted. He didnt think of you muck in this. I know that sounds harsh but thats how he wanted everything to be. Now he figures he wants a little action on the side. Dont fall for this. If you do take him back. I think he will 1) Stays married. 2) Keeps you at arms length. Leaving you feeling worse than before. 3) None of what you want in a relationship will be met. (He is only thinking of himself) Be carefull here cause it seems he is not caring about anyone else. You take him back and that is like saying that everything that has happened is ok. I don think it is. That has to hurt alot. Dont put yourself in that situation. You would be better off getting your hear done, buying some purfume, putting on the heels and doing some SALSA lessons. Never know you might have a lot of fun and meat a nice man or two. There are heaps of them out there. Most important person in this is you. Stop wasting your time. Find someone that really does care for you. You will know this because he will RESPECT you. By the way he is actually not respecting you or his wife right now. Set your boundries and move on. Good Luck....... PS Make the boundry really far. MMM. Im sure you were happy before him. I am cirtain you will be happy after him.
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Im sure you were happy before him. I am cirtain you will be happy after him. I totally agree actually. Stay away!!!