But I don’t love them the same way they love me and I am crazy about some girl I barely know. I have been with this girl almost the whole two years with a few mishaps here and there. But it seems like when ever I break it off I end up back with her again because I feel bad that she is so upset. I know that if I leave her she will be a complete mess and that is hard for me to do. I know she wouldn’t get over it very well because I was her first real boyfriend. Moreover, I would be very upset if she ended up with someone else that doesn’t treat her the best, she deserves the best. She is a wonderful person friendly, kind, caring, has a great family, easy to talk to, and anything else good in a person. She got the senior superlative for someone nice to know. Anyone would agree shes nice, I just don’t love her they way she loves me. It kills me to think that sometime I will have to leave her. I just can’t seem to put myself up to ending it(again).
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be true to yourself and her. youre not helping her out sticking around when you know eventually you'll leave her anyway. you're only wasting her time. be kind, move on so she could too.
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Ive been told that before, but I wish it seemed that simple to me. I was apart for a while around a year and a half. It was very rough for her, she didn't eat, she cried like everyday for the longest time and was just a mess. I just can't do that to her again. I mean I don't have reason to leave her really, I can't just tell her that I don't love her anymore, see you later. She just seems fragile to me and I am afraid to hurt something so kind and caring.
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you need some time to think about leaving this girl completely or to just give yourself some time off. give yourself some space. then decide if it is worth keeping the relationship. sometimes, we know what we got till it's gone. but, when you think it would help you much and would make you happier without this girl, then you should be honest enough to tell her what you think, it's all about honesty. nothing is more painful than promising her that would stay when you know that you won't.
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Break up with her, because the longer you wait, the more you'll hurt her. Believe me. Its better to let her get over you than try and be with someone who doesnt want to be with her.
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I agree, with m.polo, but make sure when you do, it will be a clean break. Don't try the friend thing because it rarely works and may just make you feel sorrier for her. It is nice that you care about her and are trying to spare her feelings, but in the long run you will only be depriving her of the wonderful feeling of having someone love you as much as you love them. So, take a deep breath and break it to her. Best of luck.