I am still in love with my ex-boyfriend i feel like its sending me mad. My ex and i went out for 3 years, i’d had one long term boyfriend before, but my ex is the first person i loved. During our first year together my ex cheated on me, we managed to get over it and we were quite happy if not a little to dependant on one another. Just before our three year anniversary i started to feel like we were more friends than boyfriend and girlfrend, these feelings build for a while and i started to notice other guys, something i had never done during our relationship. I ended it and it was very difficult, he took it very badly, we tried staying friends but always seemed to argue when we spoke and so distanced ourselves,i started dating about a month after we split. In retrospect it was far to soon and i regret it, my new boyfriend is so sweet and doting, he really is a genuinly nice guy and i do love him, but not in the same way, not even close. My new boyfriend and i have been dating for over a year now but i still think of my ex who also has a new partner. I miss him so much and think about him everyday, i know there is no chance of us getting back together as now he won’t even speak to me (im not sure why), this hurts more than i thought possible. I keep telling myself i need to get on with my life and work at my relationship, but no matter what my partner does he is not my ex, i consider ending it but i hate the thought of hurting him and just can’t do it. I just feel so down, i try not to think of my ex, but i dream about him most nights, mainly in these dreams he rejects me. I know im pathetic and just need to get over it but i don’t know how or where to start, i thought it would get better over time, but it’s just got worse.
Answer:
there is no point in staying in a relationship when you are not giving it one hundred per cent. you obviously care about you current boyfrined, but caring about him is not a good enough reason to stay with him. to be fair to him, you may have to be crual and break up with him in order to be kind. as for your ex....he probably isnt speaking to you because he still has feelings for you. if he loves you still then it is understandable that he would like to cut all ties if he is trying to move on with his life. that means, that if he loves you, and you clearly love him, then you need to speak to him about it...like the way you wrote about it above. be prepared for the fact that he may reject you...but, nothing ventured...nothing gained. good luck