I’m not suicidal, but I can’t help but dislike myself. I have a history of being hated by everyone else, so I’m thinking I’m just used to thinking that I’m not good enough. I am currently getting psychodynamic therapy, but I’m thinking of switching to cognitive-behavioral. I learned that maybe unlocking the unconscious is a dangerous thing, and I noticed that since I started getting psychodynamic therapy, I feel like not much has changed, at least nothing that wasn’t of my own volition. I notice that when people tell me about their issues, I tend to use projection, as if the person has the same thinking as I do. Then I tell them what I guess I should really tell myself if I was in their shoes. For instance, my boyfriend has an older sister whom he has to pick up from work, and I automatically assume she must be like my brother, who is the scapegoat in my family. My boyfriend always pays for me, and does all kinds of things for me, but when I try to think of things I have done for him I feel like I fall short. I have always wanted to help people, but I can’t help myself.
As you can see, I’m starting to think I think too much and need to just live and try to be happy, but I don’t know how. Please help. :(
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Well, theres nothing really I can tell you to help out the situation except for one thing. You know who you are and as long as put forward everything you got towards a situation there should be no reason to dislike yourself. Alot of us fail at things. Including me, I just spend 7 grand on University and Im at the end of the semester and I have no credits coming my way. My fault yes, but I know I didnt put 100 percent so I have a reason to beat myself up. Change takes time and its not something you are going to notice out loud, its usually a progressive process. Your boyfriend situation, well take it from a guy, he sounds like a good guy and hes treating you right and since hes still with you and hes still treating you right and doing all those things then you cant be falling short because you are making him happy. Happiness is something no one can fall short of. I doubt everyone hates you, you may think that from a group of people and then assume everyone else does. Ive been in the same boat but I relised that there are some really nice people out there that would probably do anything for you.
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volunteer, it gives you purpose.
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just sleep please sleep
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forget allllllllll
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Changing your life is as easy as changing your mind. The Buddha teaches us, "the mind is everything; you are what you think" It takes 21 days for new neural pathways to be formed to create a new habit. So, if you stand in front of the mirror, and say to yourself,"I love you"... and make a list of all the things you love about yourself... if you do this for a month, and are honest about it... I promise you will have developed the habit of loving yourself instead of hating yourself. Either form of psychotherapy is good. One is more active, and the other reveals more...(takes more time too). Just remember, there is no quick fix. It takes at least a month.
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i would completely recommend cognitive behaviour therapy. because it focuses on your thoughts, mainly the negative thoughts of course. and helps you to become more in control of that and break the negative cycle. you seem very intellegant. im sure you will make the right decision. but if you want to know more about it before you decide, give me a shout. id be happy to help
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just sit down and take a breather
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my name is z butler i feel like i am always disappointing him i feel like i sould run away my mom told me that he wants to get rid of me its not even funny i act happy but i am hurting really bad inside i want to let it out but im scared he will get rid of me what should i do please help sincerely, z butler
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i hate my life.im in placement. i have no place to go and im involved with children and youth services.i have been away from home for about five years. i am suicidal...but i dont have the guts.