and become this really angry person. This is tearing me up inside. Today i got so angry and made my girlfriend cry this is the second time i made her cry in less than 1 week. I love her too much to loose her. I dont mean to get mad and angry for something so little. But I cant help it. I dont want to keep hurting her anymore Im thinking of breaking up with her because I feel like its the only way it will hurt me for the next year or so but i think its the only way. how do you think I should do this? how do I tell her Im done and not be so sad for the next year or so this might be the end of our LONG relationship. I need help
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have you ever thought of taking an anger management program? this program actually helps you understand your anger and to be able to control it... your anger isnt going to just stop because of dumping your girlfriend... if you have an anger issue.. it is always going to be there unless you do something about it.
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no i have not tryed anger management. but i do see a shrink for depression.
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do you take meds for your depression?
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im not on them anymore
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i know that i am depressed and take meds for it... i also know that with out them.. i have mood swings that are uncontrollable.
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this is the reason why im getting mad all the time. when im on them im happy and nice.
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maybe you could talk to your theropist ... tell them how it is making you feel to be off from them... my own personal dr. prescribed my meds for me... if they wont give them to you.. i suggest going to the drs... however.. be sure to explain to your girlfriend that depression has this control over you... and that you are trying to get help... let her know that if she starts noticing your anger.. to just walk away... dont talk to you.. just walk away and as soon as you cool down, you will be back to her... do this.. not just for you.. but for her... that way.. she isnt so easily hurt and will understand a bit m ore..
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The same thing is going on with my friend right now. When you feel yourself getting angry, take a deep breath, say CALMLY that you are angry, count to ten, anything. Tell your girlfriend what is going on, and believe me, she will understand and not get upset when you DO get angry.
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Well, you need to figure out one thing. Are you mad at your girlfriend? Did she do something to upset you? or is it something else that's wrong. It's good that you don't want to hurt her by yelling and such, but breaking up with her might hurt her too. (I mean, if you don't like her...break up with her, but if ou still do...) Maybe sometime when you're not angry, sit down with your girlfriend and tell her what's going on. Tell her that you're not really angry at her, but something's bothering you but you don't know what it is or what to do about it. Then ask her what she thinks would be good to do. One think I have discovered is that you have to keep communication open else things don't work out well. Also, I don't now if you're religious or anything, and don't think i'm some crazy religous fanatic, but pray about it. No seriously. It works. Ask God to show you what's wrong and ask Him to help you come up with a solution for it. Seriously, think about it. God always wants to know what's going on in your life, even though He already knows. He wants to help you. He's just waiting for you to ask.
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I have crazy anger problems as well. I think you should try to take an anger management course. It would probably help you a lot and maybe talk to your shrink about your anger.
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if you love her y break her heart? and urs too?
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the best thing that i can say to you is to go and see a doc and ask them for help. if you love her and your self and want to stop feeling the way that you do. pleas go and see a doc. see that you tell her that you love her. just out of the blue. see that she smiles.
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I think that you might have problems that are like mine. I don't know what they are, but I am in a constant bout of depression seperated by manic fits of rage. I think we may have some form of bipolar disorder or soemthing, and by the reasurch I have done, Antidepressants can exasorbate the manic bouts in this situation. I don't know anything for sure, hell, I've not even gone to get a diagnosis (gotta love being broke) This is just what I've been reading.
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I'm a father of a son, who has the same problem, only thing is that he didn't go where he should have gone? Please hear me, i'm not trying to do anything, but inform you of your sisuation! I lost my family, to what is going on with you, so you are fortunate to be in a state of what to do, and not let IT do it to YOU. The only way out is, PLEASE HEAR THIS!! In your heart, you know what is wrong! That's a wonderful thing to realize! I used to hit my head, quit hard, throw my things around, break my things, of importance to me, notice all was me! I didn't have many friends because of the anger in me!! So your in the right place. Counceling is not a thing that works! Been to many, was open to the problem, didn't work, o for a while it did, but I was right back to the same thing! This is where you need to go!! Church! Ya, your thinking, I know what, but let me tell you that through experence, that It does work! A Church is a building, there are many people that used to have that same problem you have. It's God's spirt that will break your anger, he will only do the job if you let him. What can you loose? Then again, what can you gain? If may seem very out of sort's and even Whoooooooo, that's to much, but believe me when i say IT WORKS!! My son was real close to getting help, but he refused, the probem I had is now part of him, and the ony way he can get rid of it is where is almost was! I go to a Babtist Churh that Is Spirit filled. He was with me, and he was almost slain in the spirt of God! Really, My younger son has some problems, he went down in the spirit, nobody pushed him, he just went down,when he came up, he was totallly different than before! His brother saw it like a dream in his head, his brother told me, it was going to happen before we went into the Church! In the Bible it talks about your sons seeing visions,and that's what happened. I KNOW It's alot to take in. But that's the ANSWER. If you want to talk more about it IM OPEN, (email removed) in my address. Put in ANGER when, or if you do send me something, and I'll know It's you. You'll have girlfriends, but by the way you explaned it, She's more important than your anger!!!!!!! Hope this was helpfull to you. I'm not a Pastor or counceler, I'm sharing me and his presence. You can only be Born Again by yourself and God, nobody else can do that!! I'm sure you've herd of Born Again Christians! Be Happy like I am now. God Bless, KEN
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maybe you should get an aggressive job, real cut-throat stuff... like pirating, or stunt work, or a presidential campaign manager.