told a few of my friends and my boyfriend and i talked to it with this girl alba who is also bi but im afraid that everyone is gonna find out and be like ew, what should i do :/
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Accept yourself for who you are. It doesn't matter what others think. Stand up for you believe in and be proud of it.
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i accept myself, but what if they dont. and i know it doesnt matter what they think but, i seem to always be worried about what other people think and its hard.
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You don't have to tell everyone. Its accepting thats mportant not broadcasting it. You're still the same person so you don't have to tell everyone that you're bi. I haven't.
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i understand sorta, but what if i one of my friends goes off and tells the wrong person and then that person goes off and is like "oh did you hear that"
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I won't stand here and tell you that everyone will be cool with it, because not everyone has the privelege (I just know I'm spelling that wrong) of being open-minded. But the people who matter will accept you. The people who matter will realize that you being bi has nothing to do with your personality. You're still the same great person that all of your friends love. And if they can't accept you, they weren't really your friends.
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Yes i agree. It will be hard and you will get critisized but hey everyone does for everything. You'll get through and once it's not the latest newsflash they'll get over it and move on to someone else. Just remember that you're not the only bi person in the world and it's not really that big a deal in the scheme of things.
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i guess, i wish it could just be simpler. i think ill hold off and not tell anyone about it yet, maybe ill let them find out on there own. it wouldnt be that hard, i mean im always hanging out with bisexual people so wouldnt they get the hint?
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They won't neccessarily take that as a hint... Hell, if people took that as a hint, I'd be a gay guy, lesbian, bisexual, AND at different times and the same time!!! I'm one of the straights in my school's GayStraightAlliance. And probably about half of my friends are glbtq.
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lol, my friend when she noticed she was bi she started to makeout with a girl at the school dance she told me to do somthing like that. but i dont want to be outgoing about it, i kinda want to keep to myself for a while. what confuses me is when i told my boyfriend he was fine about it but when ever where together out in public hes always like oh why dont you go over there and hook up with that girl and it kinda gets me mad after a while because he knows im committed to him. and hes ushally not jokeing around because i can tell when hes jokeing about stuff, cause he laughs afterwords or he smiles or he does something like that, and he just kinda keeps a straight face about it.
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All i can say is do you want to do, be who you want to be and don't let anyone else influence that.Get on with your life and if people want to give you hassle leave them to it. It's your life just get on with it and be happy. You are the most important person. Your bf probably feels a bit threatened i mean it's bad enough for him that he has guys to compete with but now he's got the whole world lol. But he obviously cares about you enough to stick with you. If i were you i'd wait until the day that you are with a girl and then everyone will find out that way. Thers no need to broadcast it if you have a bf. It would probably upset him if you did, you know what men are like and there egos!
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yeah,i think that would probably be the best idea. thanks for all your help :]
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Well, honestly, I've never met a guy who didn't think that lesbian action is hot. But asking you to do that when you're not ready is not cool. Coming out even to a few people is a really big deal. And it's something where you need to take your own sweet time. Just tell him to cool his jets and that you want to slow down with your coming out. I've had friends who have taken years coming out... Then others who I've thrown coming out parties for! The important thing is that you need to do it when you're comfortable.
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lol yeah but he made me promise i would never cheat on him with a girl so its confuseing
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Like i said stick with him if thats what you want and wait until you're in a relationship with a girl before you come out. Would i be right in thinking you haven't been with a girl yet?
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well i've madeout with a girl before but i've never actually been in a relationship with a girl.
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So there's really no need to shout about it until you're in a relationship.
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yeah, i guess your right lol
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Very true. Your sexuality is a nice thing to have. I know what it's like to be in that situation. I'm gay, and I have a girlfriend, and the fact I have her and I have people around me, I feel like I need to tell. I think it should be on a "don't ask, don't tell" basis. Don't tell unless someone asks or you're in a relationship with a girl. People don't really need to know, and while it may be a huge part of your identity, try finding some ways to simply relax and enjoy your sexuality. You're allowed to think of girls a bit, try out your sexuality in that regard, then you can just relax a while until your decisions are solved. :)
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If there is one thing boys like... its bi girls ;D trust me ;D
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it sounds like u wanna tell peoplke so just do it. anybody who matters at all will accept you. im gay and ive come to the conclusion that i dont give a flying **** what other people think (cept my family lol.) and yah there are homophobes and stuff who bother me from time to time, but its not that bad.
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yeah go for it shout it from the roof tops as long as your happy with who you are dont worry what anyone else thinks and the people who really matter to you will understand good luck,
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i accept myself, but what if they dont. and i know it doesnt matter what they think but, i seem to always be worried about what other people think and its hard. if you have accepted yourself then it wouldnt be a problem what other people would think. maybe you need a little more work on your self esteem. some people are straight, some gay, some bi. thats just the way it is. just like some humans are men, some are women etc. its just life. people are pretty much more accepting then you think. there will always be the odd few that may tease, but thats because your 'different' not specifically cuz you are bi
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yeah go for it shout it from the roof tops as long as your happy with who you are dont worry what anyone else thinks and the people who really matter to you will understand good luck, haha about shouting it from the roof tops, one time my friend accused me of having a vagina (just joking) and i yelled "EWWW I WOULD KILL MYSELF IF I HAD A VAGINA THEYRE GROSS" without thinking about it and i just happened to be in a crowded area during lunch. ahahhahha.