and he used to be my friend, but hes really a shallow self-centered jerk, and i hate him, ive humiliated him in front of the whole school to get him to leave me alone, but for some reason he cant stand not having me as his friend, i think its because he cant stand that he lost a friend or something, but now he is always like “what do i have to do to get you to be my friend again?” but all he is doing is trying to be the better man, and it p!sses me off, what are ways i can either make him hate me as much as i hate him (yeah i know that sounds odd but seriously) or get him to leave me alone and stop acting as if we are still friends?
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what happened to end your friendship?
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he was stupid and would say embarrasing stuff and put me down around other people.
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did you ever tell him this?? maybe he was doing it out of unsubconsiousness and not knowing he was doing it... so that he could fit into the group... as for ending a friendship with him... the only suggestion that i can say is to just tell him.. tell him why... and that you choose not to deal with him anymore...
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i ended the friendship a long time ago and i told him why i hate him, and he's still oblivious to why me and him cant still be friends, i think he might have a mental disorder or something, like some kind of OCD
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no, my daughter has ocd.. its not that... ocd is obsessive compulsion disorder in which your brain makes you do things such as washing hands, blinking, counting.. ect.. it has nothing to do with not backing down like in your situation.. tell him again.. he is just being ignorant.. every time he keeps this up.. just keep telling him why.. eventually he should get it through his thick skull..
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i think he has an inferiority complex, or something, idk, i keep telling him why but hes always like "what do i have to do to make you not think that?" "maybe you could help me be better?" and stupid crap like that, i would help him not but it probably wouldnt work, he would still be the same person, overcompensating for things, and if anyone says something that might be even slightly negative about him like some small little tiny thing that might be embarrasing he gets all defensive about it and justifies his actions, if anyone starts an argument then he has to be right and he will argue his point even if you have absolute proof that he is wrong. but if someone does something that is slightly embarrasing he blows it out of proportion, and comes up with things that didn't even happen, and adds things like "I told him that was stupid but he didn't listen" to all his little stories about stupid thing people have done in the past, even if he wasn't even there.
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oh wait i just found exactly what he has its a Superiority Complex: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Superiority_complex
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but yeah im getting off so i'll read your replies in the morning.
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Maybe just tell him after a few deep breaths. "I'm not intersested in being your friend anymore. I appresiate the attemps to fix things, but i'm past it." and walk away. that's my best advice. :) smile
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i do that like every day, he is so set on me being his friend its like the movie "the cable guy" almost.
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lmfao.. no way... hahahahahaha.. sorry to laugh but that movie was funny... any hoo... maybe you should have friends tell him to back off...
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well kinda, not to that extreme, but its like, "if i'm not your friend then no one is" type thing. but he thinks spreading rumors about me having a GF is hurtful to me. oh and he thinks he is the toughest kid in school, but if i didnt have a problem with going to jail i could destroy him.
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had a friend just like that once... ended with him saying that i was the one who wasn't the good friend... then he was all apologetic and said he wanted to be friends again... but didn't really put any effort into it and then moved away... so my advice... ignore him... if people take his word over yours... then they aren't worth your time either... and when i mean ignore him... i mean don't even acknowlege his existance... he speaks you don't even turn your head... he gets in your face go with the... oh im sorry did you say something? kinduf thing... and if that doesn't work (it'll likely just get him pissed off actualy) tell him to get over it.. stop being a whiny little baby.. "you suck with a capitol S. so get over it already" after that he'll know why you don't acknowlege his existance.. and if you can take him... then you won't have to worry about him starting a fight... just make sure that if he tries you tell him to wait till after school (if thats where you see him most often) and bring a few friends in case he does the same... but make sure its understood that they don't jump in unless his do...
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i tried that already, he is obsessed with being my friend, i kinda wish i could find a way to destroy him emotionally... suggestions?
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bad idea... its lowering yourself too much... if you're ignoring him... then keep ignoring him... obviously nothing you do is going to get him to stop short of getting some kind of restraining order or something of the likes... and if that doesn't work out too well... then get over it yourself... the worlds a ****** place... and you're likely going to have deal with worse people than this kid in your days... so get used to it...
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Try talking to him again, if this does not work you will have to destroy him emotionally, there are a couple of things you can do 1) Tell him that you will go out oon a date, and to meet somehwere but just don't show up, that will get his attention tell him I thought about and Nah (CHelsea in That's so Raven) 2) Get a barring order this will definetly stop him because he could go to jail.
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i dont think i would go on a date with him cuz im not gay, lol