It gets harder everyday! people say that you should always confront your problems..well my problem is my family. they hate him and i want to be with him. sure..he was different. but he changed..or at least hes trying..and it’s going good…for me anyways. it reminds me of romeo and juliet…” the forbidden love”. my mom told me that you aren’t supposed to be friends with your daughter’s boyfriend… but y not? if you aren’t friends then how are you going to ever ease up on him and your daughter being together? its weird because i have never heard that before. when my kids have boyfriends i will try to be their friend. you can’t stay enemies.. if my sons have daughters? i’ll be their friend. you have to be friends with them! well its just the way i look at it. if you can’t be friends whats the point in even talking to them..idk parents are weird. but i will never try to keep my child from seeing someone unless i know for sure they will get hurt. because every relationship has it’s ups and downs… you just have to watch for the bad things and catch them before they get too far.
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I would never keep my child from anyone because i know if i tell them u can't date them my child will just go off and date him more
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if only my mom was the same way..well i am seeing him..behind all their backs..and it hurts to do it, but it also hurts that they dont want me to be with him. im happy now with him. rebellion...and kids...perfect match. its horrible though. well, what would you say to someone who found out their child went behind their back to date that "forbidden" person..
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you know what i think it's absolutley pointless for a parent to tell their child to NOT to something when their a teenager....Unless it involves something death threatening because the teenager will just rebel and do it my dad realized that and gave up hahah and my mom she constantly told me what not to do an so forth and it made me so mad that i went out and did it
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lol yeah..well i have tried everything to get my mom to just let go a little and let me live. she watches so close that i can barely make mistakes...and i keep asking her how im going to learn if she won't let me make mistakes! but shes got a good grip on me cause i still live in her house..you know...the whole " you live in my house you live by my rules" i hate it! i mean..all through highschool i didn't get to do much..too sheltered...and now it's like...i still can't do anything! and having a boyfriend who is better than any of my exes? it's kinda nice! oh..and my mom doesn't understand that every relationship has it's ups and downs! i swear! she keeps going around it! i rebel only so far...hoping they will kick me out...i know ive got a million other people who would gladly take me in... but it won't happen cause i only let myself go so far.....rebellion is such a word!
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oh wow how old are?
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...yeah.turned 18 in august.
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i agree with dani, the biggest mistake parents can make is to try and micro-manage their childrens lives, especially in the teenage years (like dani said unless this person is really gonna put their child in serious danger). Luckily my parents have always accepted anyone i brought home, making them family 5 minutes after they step through the door (unfortunate for whoever i brought home since i have a very large and crazy family) youve graduated high school? then she definately needs to cut the umbilical cord
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yes.. i am curently applying for jobs..i have to get out! yeah..well her side of the family is pretty messed up...ou tof like 18 kids she and one sister and two brothers or something like that are actually doing ok..the others are drug addicts and alcoholics and stuff.... she doesnt want me to turn down that path. especiall since my birth mom was a druggie and all as well. but im not stupid! she raised me well enough to know better..
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omg thats exactly my mom's family, everytime i goto a bar she says im an alcoholic i pity you phew you need to get out unfortunatly i still live with my momma
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crazy... well don't you get along with her though? she trust you?
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somedays we get along, and no she does not trust me she ALWAYS thinks im lying it's getting old real fast
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sounds like my mom! omg! just curious..how old are you?
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i'm 23 but I always get the "well you're living in my house" But i pay the woman weekly and i remind her that and i'm 23 and she can't control me anymore then she flips out then yells and screams and i used to scream back but when she starts that sh*t i just walk away
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what?! o man. yeah..walking away helps! yeah..when i get a job i might move in with a couple of friends in an apartment...itll be a while but ive made up my mind! lol i hate that whole living in my house stuff..who came up with it?!
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Lol i advise strongly get away hahaha unfortunatly I got pregnant and had to move in with her
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oh...that sucks...um...wow. yeah..ive been through some rough times with being pg...she never knew about them..but at least you get to have yours...you are right?
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the first two time's No--if you know what I mean-- but the last time i decided to just have it and deal with it
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yeah i know what you mean..boy or girl?
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parents alot of times don't make since with their actions, but I mean maybe they have a good reason for not likeing him what is this boy like?
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he's a Boy 2 and a brat
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lol :P yeah..true..whats he like? well first off hes 19. he shares a business ownership with his mom..so hes always going to be taken care of..mommy will always be there. but like..hes..different. hes kinda stuck up... hes outgoing...which i love..its wierd..hes the total opposite of me...im more shy and quiet..and i have to work my way to get what i want...idk he wants everything, but when he..ah ha a spoiled brat. that's exactly what he is..used to getting everything he wants.
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hes not like any other guy ive met...but he cares... really cares... but no one else sees it...so its hard to get them to like him and to bellieve me
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and i know the main reason y they dont like him but they won't allow him to fix it
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well i have to go. i hope to talk again! i enjoyed talking! bye! have a great rest of the day..and tomorrow..and the day after that....and so on and so forth!
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Given what your mom said, you cant change her. What I can say is that over time your mom will warm up to him. It wont be quick, but give her time. She will want to be friends with your boyfriend if hes around long enough to prove to her that he really cares for you. Most guys only go for one thing. When they are done they leave the girl in a world of hurt while they pursue thier next desire. Thats more than likely what your mom is used to. She just needs time. Time to get used to this guy being a part of your life. You cant put a limit on that time, she has to come to that decision on her own. It sucks, just be patient. Either the two of you will breakup, or your mom will learn to like him.
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yeah.. that's true.. thank you! i just hope we stay together. !!!!
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I say move out and get on birth control. Your mother is looking out for your best interests. You obviously do not appreciate what she has been providing for you. Move out and take care of yourself. Then you can see this boy whenever you want to. You can buy your own food, what ever you want and you can keep the apartment warm. You can get a couch to sit on and decorations that you really like. You can buy sheets for you bed and a blanket too, yes, you can buy the bed as well. You can deal with room mates who don't do the dishes and eat your food, stay up late and keep you awake. Imagine, you have to keep living with them because you signed the lease. Make your own decisions and mistakes. Maybe you will learn and appreciate just what your mother has been providing for you and protecting you from. Then, when you need your mother - as Dani has found out she and her 'brat' do - you can think about what she IS providing for you.
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BRIGHTSHINE THIS ONES FOR YOU first off. i totally appreciate what my mom has been providing for me. so back up just a little. btw i am on birth control. if i moved in with him i could do it. i can deal with **** like that. ok? i don't mind doing dishes and so they eat my food? i go buy more..and anyways it would most likely be only the two of us. so back the **** up! u don't even know the whole story! and fyi i wouldn't be sitting on my *** all day thank you. im not a lazy ***.... i am going to school to become a nurse. they make some **** good money you know? you shouldn't say things like that unless you know the whole story! oh..and fyi my bf owns his own house and has all the necessities basically already so **** off!!!!!!!!!im sorry but i dont like you!
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HEATHER THIS ONES FOR YOU yeah i plan on waiting. im looking for a job. i am gonna be staying with my mom for a while. as for the papers and stuff? yeah i know... i have talked to my mom about it.. she was helpful with that. i have my two closest friends that i have known for 10 years that want to get together with me and get one. only one of us has a job though. but im looking for one.plus going to school...so ..yeah. thank you for your input. i will keep what you said in mind!
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Might bit hostile there girl. Wow ... good luck with everything. Have fun!
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Well doesnt that sound like the pot calling the kettle black......hhmmmmm....