The thing is, besides being gay and having a boyfriend, he acts totally not interested in me as a human being. He’s really sociable and talks to everyone in class but usually just ignores me, it seems. He talked to me like twice but seemed to think I was boring. (I’m really shy) At this point I don’t even care if he’s gay, I just want to be friends with him and spend time with him and stuff..is that normal? He is so cute and hot and funny and great. Should I just completely tell myself to stop it and stop thinking about him period, or should I let myself feel what I feel and maybe try to talk to him? I know this seems like a dumb question but it’s really serious to me unfortuantely. Thank you for reading.
Answer:
Unless you're a gay male also, i would just give up. If you are afemale, everyone has crushes on a gay boy. They are just so much better than the straight ones. Girls are always attracted to the boys that ignore them, which makes it soo much harder, gay boys are appealing to straight girls, because they are in touch with the sides that the straight boys are not. I'm sure he's not ignoring you. Try to be friends with him, or even just focus your attention somewhere else.
Answer:
Girls are not ALWAYS, but a lot of the time, you have no idea how many friends i've had that are obsessed with a boy that won't even give them te time of day
Answer:
not every1 wud get a crush on a gay guy. and just be urself. i find people with a flat voice who show no emotion are deadly to talk too. be urself and show emotion and express urself around him. if he tries to stop u from doing that then maybe he;s not the nice gay guy u thought he is. and one good thing, if he is willing to talk you know for sure he wudn;t be trying to do so to get into bed with you ;) I did like some guy, he was gay and changed to straight years later. when he was straight he wrote on some site his personal life saying how he'd want some woman to shag etc etc after i read that i think i prefered the gay him. lol.
Answer:
i am really shy myself. i learned that people dont not talk to you because they dont like you, its because they think you dont like them. when people are nice and outgoing it makes them more attractive. but when people dont talk it makes them seem stuck up and boring. believe me i know how you feel. just try to put yourself out there and be as outgoing as you can. that may make him pay attention to you more. in reality he probably has no idea you even think about him. as for him being gay, dont try to turn him straight or anything, im just saying this stuff to help you to be friends with him
Answer:
Okay, so You and I are in the exact same boat here! I, too, have a little crush on a guy whom I THINK is gay. He's in one of my college classes and it's an intimate class that we're required to like, share secrets and personal sutff like that. He told us that he told his grandmother he was gay. So that's why I think it's true. Anyway, I liked him since the very first day of class. I just knew that we was going to be funny and smart and he's SO cute! But like your situation, I'm kind of shy and he talked to about everybody else but me. So here's what I did: I added him (and a few other people in that class so that it wouldn't look so obvious) as a friend on Facebook. It's easier to do Facebook than Myspace, especially when you're in college (though I don't know if you are or not) because most college students are cumpulsive about Facebook and check it a million times a day...I know I do. lol. So the next time we met for class, he said something to me about adding him, to the effect of..."I saw you added me on Facebook, and I was like...confirm! yes!" He was being friendly and joking around with me. It really broke the ice and it made him see that I wasn't like...'trying to get in his pants' or ANYTHING like that, but that I just wanted to make friends...which is exactly what I wanted to do. So through Facebook, we were able to see that we had common interests. For instance, I'm in the Harry Potter 'Slytherin House' on there and he's in Gryffindor (don't know if you're familiar with HP...it would be helpful if you were for this example) and he said he couldn't picutre me in that house ans so on. And actually ended up having a 'wizard duel' in class one day...oh my gosh, it was so stupid but so fun. And it made us closer, in a way because we were humiliating ourselves in front of the class, but we were doing it together, so it's like we had kind of a bond, I guess. Also, it's SOOO easy to flirt online...much easier than in person. And we've been kind of flirtacious and stuff, even though I still think he's gay. Which makes me sd, but I'm fine with being his friend...he's a great guy and as much as I feel attracted to him, I'd rather be his friend and not his lover than to be his lover and not his friend any day. Sorry this is long, but I just thought I'd let you know that I'm in the same boat, and that you shouldn't be disappointed if it doesn't work out all peachy for you. Trust me, I was really surprised when this situation did b/c I've been in somewhat similar situations before and they never have before. I guess you just have to try...and it's a lot easier to TRY for a friendly relationship if you're not sure of how he will react than to TRY for a romantic relationship right off the bat. Friends can often turn into more that friends, but if you start off being more than friends, it's doubtful that you'll end up being friends if it doesn't work out...especially if you were never friends to begin with.
Answer:
baby girl,i do understand you,even though i am a lot older than you.Hey i am 28 and in a realationship,however i do have special feeelings for my boss at work ,who..guess what...is gay.we do flirt all the time,and i wish i can tell him how i feell ,even though he lives with another man (his honey).I love him a a person,and i will tell him one day how i feell even though i do not expect anything back.But who knows ?!Maybe he is your soulmate,maybe not.Lett time tell...and if its meant to be that it is is,but if not...not