I have a friend who has been seeing his girlfriend off and on for the past few years. He cares a lot for her, but recently she seems to think (and I get this from him) that he’s not worth her time. He only gets to see her a few times a month. She’s even said she doesn’t feel the same way about him, but she keeps coming back and he keeps hoping she’ll stay. I haven’t said anything about it to him because I don’t know if it’s something I should bring up. On the other hand, I worry about him. She keeps leaving him, he keeps getting himself hurt, and I don’t know if there is anything I can do other than listen to him when he brings it up. If anyone has any advice on this, I’d appreciate it.
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Haha, thanks for answering, but I don't think that'll work.
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Are you a female or male friend? That does play into if you should or shouldn't approach the subject. This whole on and off thing, are you all in school, and she's back home? There isn't exactly enough information to make an informed decision on this.
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I am female, but I don't have any romantic feelings for him. I'm a senior in highschool. They're both in college, but he's in the local community college and she's across the state. They've been having issues ever since I met them over three years ago.
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Well... If you try and whack some sense into him - he may get the wrong impression or even get defensive. It all depends on how open he is to advice and suggestions... But generally guys don't like hearing negative things about a girl they like - even more so if he continues to wait for her to return persistently. Try bringing up the subject. Delicately. In a way that conveys 'I worry for you hence' not 'You're a fool she's playing you'. If he isn't going to be receptive to advice, you have no choice but to just be there. Quite painful to see a friend being hurt, but when they don't listen or don't want to - there isn't much you can do... sorry. Don't you wish you could hit them? Idiots. But then, people go crazy when they think they're in love.. tsk... I sincerely hope he figures it out. Soon. Apologies for not being able to give any concrete advice...
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It is so hard to try to help others look at their own situation when they are going through it. You can easily look at this and see that your friend is being played but he can't. I am sorry, but all you can do for your friend is be a good friend to him and be a shoulder to cry on. Also, give advice when he seeks it from you, and tell him the truth when he asks for it. Other than that, you will just seem like a meddling friend.