and i tried to talk to her about getting help or even a hot line to call but she doesnt want to do any of that. nd shes actually getting mad at me for trying to help her. im obviously gunna keep talking to her and try and get her help but what else can i do? she doesnt want to talk to a physcologist or anything. what do i do?
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You are her friend. You LOVE HER. She doesn't need you telling her that she has problems, and needs help, THAT IS WHAT SHE HAS BEEN TELLING YOU! What she is asking, is for you to be a Friend. BE ON HER SIDE. THERE ARE REASONS THAT PEOPLE GET UPSET. IT IS NORMAL! Support her. Provide a shoulder to lean on. Only talk about what you know. YOU know she is depressed YOU know that this upsets YOU. YOU want her to be happy. YOU want to be HAPPY.
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i am letting her talk to me and im not telling her that she has a problem. but i am telling her that she should talk to someone that can help her better then me. she told me that shes not depressed and things r going pretty well. but for some reason she gets these thoughts about killing herself. when she sees a knife she wants to cut herself, when she sees a rope she wants to hang herself, and when she sees a bottle of pills she wants to take them all. i know that some people cant help themselves and i cant be there all the time and im afraid shes gunna do something to hurt herslef
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"and i tried to talk to her about getting help or even a hot line to call but she doesnt want to do any of that." That is exactly what is in the headline. There is no one better than YOU! YOU KNOW HER. SHE WANTS YOUR HELP. HELP HER. I have delt with my own friend's suicidal thoughts. I'm telling you, if you want her to live, Tell her that YOU WANT TO HELP. YOU DO WANT TO HELP. YOU ARE ON here Listen to exactly what she sais (as I am doing with you) Provide Help. (as I am doing with you.) Assume nothing but the best. Assume that she is fine - because SHE IS! Talk about what you know. Earlier I wrote "Only talk about what you know. You know she is depressed You know that this upsets you. You want her to be happy. You want to be happy." I have to fix what I said - only focus on the positive! You CAN tell her that you know she is depressed, but that may embarass her or upset her. SO- tell her that you want her to be happy. That is all you have to say, in one way or another.
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ok thank u
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no problem. Set an example.
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Good luck. I felt suicidal, and I told my teacher. He took me to a social worker and I'm a lot better now.
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Good luck. I felt suicidal, and I told my teacher. He took me to a social worker and I'm a lot better now. Did they lobotomize you? Are you a zombie? Social workers are specially trained healthcare workers that don't care for you anymore than a cook cares for a 'special order.' True, but they pretty much said,
"Life is shit. You can't change it. Live with it." :P
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They obviously know what is best.
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“Life is ****. You can’t change it. Live with it.” :P GOOD STUFF!
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True, but they pretty much said,"Life is shit. You can't change it. Live with it." :P NEVER!!!! It's not what they said, but I know it's what they thought.
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That is what YOU thought they were thinking. What do YOU think about yourself? (That is what people see in you)
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That is what YOU thought they were thinking. What do YOU think about yourself? (That is what people see in you) What do I think of myself? A frustrated man in a world of idiots.
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You are frusterated because people don't understand you.
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Lulza said it...
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True. Though I am smarter than most people.
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AnishK, humility is a very important virture. Master humility before pride. And you are still under the impression that your opinions are facts.
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Your opinion of being smarter than most, is not fact.
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Though I don't doubt that you ARE smart.
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Your opinion of being smarter than most, is not fact. Perhaps. But then why does no one ever know what I'm talking about when I talk of mathematics, science, politics, or any other field? I just derived information from my observations. "Je pense, donc je suis." [I think, therefore I am. (Cogito ergo sum)]
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OK... if that is your definition of "SMARTS", then YES YOU ARE!
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I feel smart when people KNOW what i'm talking about.... but that is MY idea of SMART.
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Yeah, me too, but that's not all, of course. Intelligence is required.
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Here AnishK, I made this for you: Well, I scored 144.
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That's nice, lemming. Who?
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That's nice, lemming. Who? 'lemming,' as in someone who follows whatever is in front of his face? Some one who does and believes what everyone else does. Y'see, it's funny because just because you're confident (one could argue over confident) that doesn't make you a lemming. Fact: the statement that lemmings follow whatever they see was proven to be a myth ages ago. And you're making no sense.
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It takes time for each person to heel on there own.I was suicidal and a "cutter" since i was a kid.It took me from the age of 9 until i had my first kid at 21 to stop.And i lied,I was 24 or 25 and preg with my 2nd child.I usto write poems.I wrote one one day, and a friend asked me write one from my sons point of view.I couldnt stop crying after i saw it threw his eyes.We all heel in our own ways.Mine took being loved and knowing i was loved.My x was very abusive,mentally,physically,verbal you name it.It wasnt fair for my son to see me hurt every day not only by his dad but by myself as well. Just be there for her sometimes ITS JUST a cry for attention,she wants to know someone is there,loves her and wants her to be there,all you can do is give a shoulder,ear,and a hand.
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That's nice, lemming. Who? 'lemming,' as in someone who follows whatever is in front of his face? Some one who does and believes what everyone else does. Y'see, it's funny because just because you're confident (one could argue over confident) that doesn't make you a lemming. Fact: the statement that lemmings follow whatever they see was proven to be a myth ages ago. And you're making no sense. Forest for the tree, and my IQ on that test said mine is 146, so shut up, boi. I don't believe you, but really, if you're trying to tell me something, or convert me to your "beliefs", please stop. It's irritating. OK, I'm unsubscribing.
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okay i see you have alot of anwsers and there is nothing you can do but let her go and it is her life just let her chosse.
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you can call a hotline for your friend. I'm pretty sure they have them. Also call 211 if it's making you depressed they are professionals that work with these problems every day. Even talk to a conselor so she can seek help for your friend. do what's best for your friend.
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syd bear has a good message
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If she is telling you of her self-harm wishes then all you can do is tell her that you will seek help for her. If she does self-harm it is not your fault. If she is telling you and says she doesn't want you to tell others then ask her 'why have you told me?' By telling another person you wish to self-harm you are breaking the silence around your wish. Most people who disclose they wish to self-harm also seek help, not merely attention.i think im in love with my cousin is that ok.you know like be in love with a family member cause he told me he really loved me and kissed me… Sooo for the past 3 weeks I have been really down. What makes a person normal? I’M feeling very depressed. CHRISTMAS GIFTS IDEAS…