We have been sleeping together pretty much since he started over the summer. Originally when we started hanging out I wasn’t even thinking about him in that way, but then one night we slept together and since it’s been going on regularly. He also has a girlfriend, who has moved out of his place, and they don’t see each other very much anymore. He was with her for years, and I know that I can’t ever really trust him. We hang out all the time though, and he is always dropping things like, “I only like to sleep with one woman”. Multiple times he’s told me he hasn’t slept with anyone else. I know there’s a good chance he has, and is just lying, but I want to believe what he says. Sometimes he has gotten jealous over me flirting with friends (whom I didn’t even think I was flirting with). I can’t keep this up, it’s a distraction and just not very healthy. Even though I know this, I can’t stop craving him. We work together so every time I see him at work, all I can think about is the fantastic sex. I hate being so attracted to him, it’s been a going on for months now (almost 5 now), but I can’t make myself stop either. I can’t afford to quit my job, I don’t know how long he’s going to stay there. I also haven’t told anyone from work about it, and can’t. I want to be able to say I can be strong enough to just stop now and just be friends, I know he would be ok with that, but I just don’t want to be just friends anymore. He said that he would rather us be friends than ruin our friendship by continuing to sleep together, but we still are. I don’t know if he really wants to be friends, but I feel like we’ve been sleeping together/hanging out at least 2-3 a week for months, can he really just not feel anything for me at all?
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Ok, so this is what you are going to do.. Tell him that you want more of a relationship out of him. That you want more than friends with benefits. If he denies you that then explain that you don't want to see him anymore. If he respects you as a person and he likes you for more than just a sex buddy he will do it. Also, if he doesn't want anyone from work to know then thats not cool.. To me that says that he rather not anyone know that he is into you. And lastly, there is plenty of great sex out there.. and plenty of time.. :)
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Yes it is possible for him to feel Nothing for you. I would say, ask him. But seriously, if you feel distrustful of him now then it will not change when u get married, or move in with him. Any his jealousy will get only more controlling.
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Every situation is different. Chances are if he is your friend, then he feels something for you. His lack of interest in going beyond friends with benefits may be a sign that he cares for you but is not ready for a monogomous relationship right now. He could have gotten in a relationship and just cheated. People like to believe that they know how men or women think but it is just not true. There are many people who like to keep their private life seperate from work because people at work like to gossip a lot and one slip of the tongue means that you have to look people at work in the face on a daily basis knowing they know something personal about you that you wish they didn't. So on that note leave your personal life at the door when you get to work. It aint the sex you're craving it is the sex with him. You have become attached, and the physical connection is just an outward expression the emotional connection you are feeling. That's what makes it great sex. In the end, you need to do what is best for you. Being in this situation can destroy your self esteem.