just like to get some sort of feedback (hopefully constructive and NOT gutter-oriented) about … I have a young teenage daughter who much to my dismay, has and is “maturing” far faster than what a Father would like to have to witness. Over the course of the last 2 years, I have noticed that the frequency of having to include “Veet” as part of the honey-do list of stuff to pick up on the way home or during the weekend shopping errands, has increased substantially. I say substantially only because I am hard-pressed to belief that a 14-year old young lady requires in excess of 10-12 ounces per month of Veet. Not when she’s “supposed” to be attending to her lower legs and armpits only that is. Weeell, being the overly analytical individual that I am (Investigative Engineer by professiona), I decided to run a bluff on my daughter. The bluff worked of course and I was informed that she is Veeting not only her entire leg (both of course) and her armpits on a weekly basis, but she has decided that she “needs” to be totally hairless in her “nether regions” as well. Believe me, I maintained the utmost of composure which really wasn’t THAT difficult since it does take quite a bit to rattle me. But nonetheless … I inquired as to what could possibly have persuaded her that this “task” needing doing at 14 years old. I of course was met with a repeated chorus of “this is embarrassing - I don’t want to talk about it”. I did ask her if she had at the very least, exercised enough common sense to read the product label and ascertain that Veet is NOT intended for use in the pubic area. I am aware of chemical affectations on or around various skin textures and compositions and really wanted to enlighten her regarding the potential troubles. Again I heard the “I don’t want to talk about it” echos. So I ask you … and if there are ANY single Fathers out there with the same issues or knowledge thereof - PLEASE feel free to chip-in your 2-bits huh? And I can assure those of you that might happen to be of the same gender and in the same age bracket, that I will listen to your observations, comments and/or opinions as well. Personally speaking - I am of the belief that this habit on her part, is merely reflecting fairly typical actions exercised by those individuals showing the beginnings of compulsive (dis)orders myself. But I am no doctor, I’m just a concerned Dad. Thanks in advance y’all …
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It's a personal preference thing. There's nothing wrong with it. Not much you can do beyond voicing your opinion, and that could get awkward.
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i dont see any problem with not wanting hair there. but if she is determined. dont let her use veet. you can get super nasty infections from that stuff.
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Shaving or waxing is probably better.
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you should also make her an appt. to make sure she doesnt already have an infection. that could get very akward though. luck to you. waxing is macho painful. but if she is 14 she may nick herself and that isnt fun either. safest. prolly waxing. but for a 14 year old. kinda young.
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Are you a single parent?
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If not, I'd probably let Mom do the talking and just talk through her. It's really awkward for a girl to talk about anything private like that. From what I've seen, a girl has a much easier time talking about these things with her mother.
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I would say most young people do somekind of.... err ... um... "grooming" so that's no biggie, probably heard it from a friend, of a friend, of a friend, who has an older sister. The obvious problem is not the Veeting, but WHY she is doing it. It may be uncomfortable for you, but someone needs to have the serious sex talk with her beyond the birds and bees. They scary one about the realities of sex and adult decisions.... it doesn't not have to be you, but as a parent, it's your duty to make sure she gets it.. If you are concerned about compulsive disorders in the hair removal area, I'd get concerned if she moves to the arms. Eyebrows are normal for young girls to mess around with, cause they are figuring out the whole makeup thing.
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I want to thank all y'all - I appreciate the feedback big time. No, I'm not a "single parent" ... but my daughter and her Mom really don't care for each other too much, too often. We (me and my daughter that is) have a really great relationship - she'll generally listen (as much as a 14-year old CAN be expected to listen anyway) to me and pay heed even. She's one helluva good girl; she's got a real good "smart streak" between her ears so I'm not concerned (yet) about any sexual activities going on. I did tell her though, during our brief conversation before, that if she's decided to go hairless because of somebody ELSE wanting her to be - then THAT is not acceptable from the standpoint that I want her think and do for herself, not somebody else. Thanks again y'all - have a good one!!
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If she wants to Veet, let her Veet, its in all Cosmo and similar magazines, very much the 'in ' thing to be hairless all over. Personally I have tried Veet on my own nether regions, and lost not only my hair but a layer of skin.......... that stuff isnt really meant for that area, but I dont imagine it would do any actual harm, and I guess its not if she is still using it weekly.
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For some reason in the culture right now it is good to be hairless. That is a lot of upkeep for social reasons. Medicaly thinking, I can't say much as I have no medical creditentials, but I know that the introduction of chemicals in the vaginal area can be risky. Use As Directed is a warning for a very good reason. Shaving would be prefered, and as we guys know, practice makes perfect. As for sexuality, you can only do your best in guiding her to make wise decisions. Goodluck!
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I really don't think this is any of your concern. You may be her father, but maybe she finds pubic hair as disgusting, as many people do. And, that's none of your business. If my father ever asked me about it, I would be just grossed out. Oh and just because girls do this, it does not mean that they are having sex. I have OCD, but this whole removing of the hair does not necessarily corelate to that.