14 years old and having to deal with a lot, my friend who is 16 is anorexic i can’t keep lying to her about her being fine, i’ve told my teacher and she suspects me of telling. my other freind is a self harmer. i feel let down by her as i trusted her and told her not too she’s seen what people have become through it - she didn’t tell me, i guessed. you might have guessed but i am a self harmer too i cut and burn im addicted. my friends come for me with every tiny problem and i feel that i owe it to them to help. my parents tell me i’m dirt on their shoes my mum hits me when it suits her, she is such a child, she blaims everything on me or my dad. this sounds like me just being a teenager blaiming her mum but she blaimed the fact we are bankrupt on me and the fact she didn’t get a promotion. my parents fight all the time even if i try and keep this family together by “so daddy how’s work” my mum will go on about what a faliure he is even though i am so proud of him. i’m not my fathers child im a test tube baby along with my twin sister: she is younger than me in mind and in innocence she is sweet and charming. my mum dotes on her. we are both musical and my mum constantly helps my sister with her violin and with me she doesn’t care but shouts and hits me if i don’t to well. i try to protect my sis from my mum but i let her grow up. i write but im breaking. im behind at schoool and have a problem with constant headaches and tiredness. i’m in a state of depression like i’m spiralling down passed an unclimbable crevasse. i don’t want to go to my doctor to see whether i’m clinically depressed. help me this is the first time i have asked this but help i need it THANK YOU writing this - this is the first time i’ve cried in 4 years
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Things will get better for you.
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Ur strong. Ur a protector. Ur a sympathizer. U help everyone around you and they treat you like dirt. You can pull through this. If the hitting is bad, go to the social services. if in the uk, use childline. (read my poems - might help)
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Dear... I feel for you... Don't give into your Mum's words. You are very important...
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Does your sister and dad see how you are treated and what you are going through? Do you think your dad will ever leave your mum if he is treated that way? Sometimes trying to hold a family together is not always the best thing to do when all they do is bring out the bad in each other, I know you love them but sometimes it causes more pain than actualy being appart, sometimes a break is what a relationship needs for them to see if they are happier appart or together and also you could stay with your dad if he ever left, give you some time to recover too. It does seem extreme how your mum blames you for everything that is not in your power to control, maybe talking to an outside friend of theirs or a relative who can come in and try to sort this out for you without letting on that it was you who asked for help, your mum obviousley has issues going on if you can play favourites between children and treat you the way she does, and I am thinking maybe more of a medical issue, I would advise to get social servises invlved if only for her to get the help she needs and I know it is easier said than done but in the long run it will help her and also make her see her life if she takes a step back from it. Goodluck :)
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Oh no, you poor thing. You are just 14- all your life you have been at home, with these kinds of things, so it's hard to imagine anything different, but once you are 16, 17, 18, you can leave, go someplace new, and live a life you want to and be free. Hopefully you still have a good 70 years ahead of you, and out of that only another 4 need to be at home, in this mess. Chin up! Stop the self harm- you don't want to go too far and miss out on those 70 years. It is painful, it hurts a lot, but you have a lot to look forward to in life, even though it doesn't feel like it. You are young. The older you get, the more you realise life has to offer. You can stick it out xxx
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Don't waste another minute. If you are being abused, call the authorities and report them. No mother hits their children... and what I mean by that is any woman that hits her children has the RIGHT to be called "mother". Worry not about the consequences, they could be no worse than where you are. Do go see your doctor and tell him/her EVERYTHING! You cannot hide anything from your doctor for your very own well being. You are very careing, and in some ways you are strong, but in some other very important ways you are not so strong. Get the help that you need. If you want to be helpful to your sister, you must get the help that you need. Love and light ~ Richard
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my sis adn dad know about it but they are too scared to stand up to my mum thanks guys u r really great x
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any woman that hits her children has the RIGHT to be called "mother". ERM... has NO RIGHT to be called mother!
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Glad you came here. Remember we are all here to help you... Never internalize what you see or hear.. you are worth so much more!... If you feel abused in anyway, please report it. Cd
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You have to have a medium of things which make you happy. Your sister has violin, find something that inspires you. Running, music, a school activity, the peace corps.... anything of that nature which suits you to become a better person in life. Yes, it's a tough road, but it can get better. Sit down and make a list of all of the things you want to accomplish and do, to have respect and strength and think of what it takes to get those. Think of ideas such as being a resourceful and strong person. As for your friends, don't associate with the problems they have. Don't cut, don't burn because there's a beautiful life to live and by harming yourself, you're depriving yourself of a lovely world out there to live. Don't follow suit with everyone because they're doing it, be different and be strong, if you aspire to be strong and work for the things you want, you won't ever be brought down.