I get bored/stressed a lot, I’m in college, and we have on campus apartments, but other than my roommates, I dont have many friends. My boyfriend goes to another college, so I only see him on weekends. I don’t know where I’m going with this really, I would just really, really want to be less apathetic. Its something that makes me annoyed, and obviously, unmotivated. School is just sucking lately, I don’t want to go to class anymore, even though I know I could fail. I dont want to go to parties, because I really don’t know where any are. I just wish I chose my college a little more carefully.
I don’t know whats wrong with me. Sometiems when I get like this, I cry. I cry about nothing special, just life in general. I cry about crying. I feel like I’m just being stupid. I hate it. I know there are wars going on right now, and people are dying all over the world. I know women are being raped and killed, and children are starving to death out there, but I’m crying because I’m bored. I real Foulcault, and cry about how much I hate school, and many other philospher/ critics, and i hate them. I hate the Critic, they are the ones who brought it out.
I want to rally a protest, I want to go to one, but really, is there a cause that matters that much, that REALLY couldn’t be solved any other way. GWB doesnt listen to protesters, then what the hell value does the first amendment have?
I dont know what i’m ranting about, I just watned to get it out, without putting anothing stupid thing on my Boyfriend’s plate.
oh yeah, he’s also suffering from depression, and when i get like this, i confuse him, depress him. I don tknow what to do, I think i just need to do my homework now…
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Keep a notebook. Write down all your anger... and reread it when you are calmer. You will learn a lot about yourself.
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WOW, APATHETIC IS AN UNDERSTATEMENT. WHY DID YOU DECIDE TO GO TO COLLEGE. ONE USUALLY GOES TO STUDY AND GET A DEGREE. NOT TO SOCIALIZE. YOU APATHY SOUNDS LIKE IT STATTED WITH LOW SELF ESTEEM. WAKE UP, GIVE YOUR HEAD A GOOD SHAKE AND GET TO THE TASK OF GETTING THAT DEGREE YOU WENT TO COLLEGE FOR. DONT WORRY ABOUT THE WARS THEY HAVE BEEN GOING ON SINCE THE BEGINING OF TIME. YOU JUST GET YOURSELF THAT EDUCATION AND CARVE OUT A PIECE OF THIS WORLD FOR YOUR SELF. YOU ARE WOMAN AND YOUR ARE STRONG. NOW HIT THOSE BOOKS.
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Yeah, i know i need to "hit the books" as you say, but these are supposed to be the best years of my life, and I'm not making any friends, and i'm already in my second year! Its just terribly lonely.
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DICTIONARY DEFINATION OF FRIEND "A person whom one knows, likes, and trusts." THINK LONG AND HARD AND YOU WILL REALIZE THAT YOU HAVE AT LEAST ONE THAT MATCHES THAT DEFINATION. THEN REACH OUT AND TOUCH THIS PERSON. SPEND SOME TIME CATCHING UP. I KNOW ALL ABOUT LONELINESS. BURRIED MY SON WHEN HE WAS SIX, OSTRICISED MY FAMILY. IT CAN BE TOUGH. DO YOUR BEST TO SHAKE IT OFF AND IF ALL ELSE FAILS REMEMBER YOU ARE NEVER TRULY ALONE GOD IS ALWAYS WITH YOU.
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I would exercise. I've been reading a lot of these self-help books lately ( I know, lame right?) but they always talk about mood boosters and stuff. My favorite is running, or exercise in general, but a few of my other favorites are helping children (teaching dance classes) or being in nature (I even make sure that I park my car next to a pretty tree, or walk the long way through the park). Mostly, you have to get out and be with people. If you can't seem to get moving, then exercise your mind by naming three good things that have happened in your day. Don't stop until you find them. I know it sounds lame, but optimism always helps if you can afford it.
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i feel ya on that one... well do u talk to the other people in your classes and get to know them? do u go to any clubs or bars and socialize? any hobbies or sports you play with other people?
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Yeah, i know i need to "hit the books" as you say, but these are supposed to be the best years of my life, and I'm not making any friends, and i'm already in my second year! Its just terribly lonely. A lot of people remember their youth in a very slated way. They look back and only remember the good parts. They don't remember all the times they were bored out of their minds, all the times they had to stay up all night studying, or all the times they went out and had a mediocre time. But those same people will remember that mediocre time as though it were a great time. Stay focused on what matters, your degree. Take care of that, and the other things will eventually work themselves out. All these stories from adults about how they found themselves at college, well, I think that had something to do with the huge social movements of the 60s and 70s. People were for the first time being exposed to new philosophies, and were drawn together in protest of vietnam. (the same would happen for iraq if they instituted a draft). The reality is that it won't matter what you protested a year from now, but it will matter what courses you passed or failed.
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thank you so much for all your advice, i've been trying SO hard to study, and today i read about 50 pages in the Norton Anthology of Theory and Criticism, and then did two papers, i still have a ton to do, but i'm trying to stay focused, and take smart breaks-this one is a sanity one!