I have been with my boyfriend for a while, and he is a good guy. Problem is, he is so overdramatic. If i want to hang up the phone because I don’t want to be tired at school the next day, hegets totally anal about it and accuses me of not loving him. I have talked to him about his behavior, and I know the time has come to maybe break it off. He is stressing me alot and I already have to juggle 3 advanced placement classes, volunteer work, guitar practices, just alot of stuff. I can’t handle his attitude. now the REAL issue. He is overdramatic. very. and i know if i break up with him he might do something extremely drastic. His mom ignores him, his dad abandoned him at a young age, so he has quite an array of abandonment issues. to him i am really te only static person in his life. If he loses me, he might just.. well do things to himself that i don’t want him to do. what do i dooo…..
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He needs therapy of some kind. Set him up with the school counselor and if u put these reasons y on the sheet, he is required to go. he has issues he needs to sort out, not issues u need to sort out for him. dont hold on becuz of fear.
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he sounds very controlling... and you need to break that tie if he will not change.. i am a survivor of domestic violence... and this is how it all starts.. the little dramatic issues. .. the control... the making you feel guilty... then comes the names calling.. then later the making you stay away from your friends and such... and then i went through the hitting... he needs to have some sort of counciling... seriously... if he does not change his behavior... then i really hope you think about what might happen down the road..
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love um and leave um!
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i've been in an abusive relationship before *verbal not like hitting* but it's not me i'm worried about i think he may even try to commit suicide if i dump him
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Your boyfriend sounds a bit like me unfortunately. Maybe he needs to feel more loved by you. Try being more affectionate; even small things will make someone happy if its obvious you were thinking about them and their feelings. Maybe plan out dates that are more in his interest and say I love you more often.
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i've been in an abusive relationship before *verbal not like hitting* but it's not me i'm worried about i think he may even try to commit suicide if i dump him but hun... how unhappy do you have to be... do you really want your daughter to see what he is doing to himself... obviously he is going to keep trying whether you are with him or not with him....
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If you think that he will commit suicide if you break up with him than you have to tell someone and express to him that you care about him still, and enough to not want anything to happen to him. But you cannot let him drag you down. Its hard enough going to school and trying to balance a healthy regular relationship let alone one that makes you feel guilty. You sound like you still like him friend wise enough so just make sure he knows that. Im not saying give the whole "we can still be friends speach" but dont let him think that you are abondoning him.
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just send him to me for a month i will cure him "guarantee"if his mum who certainly would know him best ignores him ,do the same ,he is just spoiled
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Your boyfriend sounds a bit like me unfortunately. Maybe he needs to feel more loved by you. Try being more affectionate; even small things will make someone happy if its obvious you were thinking about them and their feelings. Maybe plan out dates that are more in his interest and say I love you more often. Oh I dont think so, if his controlling dramatic behaviour is rewarded by her being more loving, there is no telling how far he will push it, or how much worse he will get. Elexa, you have tried speaking to him already. He didnt listen, you arent responsible for his happiness. You should leave him soon. Your youth should be happy and carefree.... not like this.
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Your boyfriend sounds a bit like me unfortunately. Maybe he needs to feel more loved by you. Try being more affectionate; even small things will make someone happy if its obvious you were thinking about them and their feelings. Maybe plan out dates that are more in his interest and say I love you more often. Oh I dont think so, if his controlling dramatic behaviour is rewarded by her being more loving, there is no telling how far he will push it, or how much worse he will get. Elexa, you have tried speaking to him already. He didnt listen, you arent responsible for his happiness. You should leave him soon. Your youth should be happy and carefree.... not like this. APPLAUDS TO YOU... I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU!!!!
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I can see I'm going to have problems once I get into a serious relationship. He doesn't seem controlling to me, and Elexa Rose didn't mention it either, though I could be wrong I suppose. What happens if you do leave him and he actually does kill himself? That would haunt you for the rest of your life. If you really do love him, maybe you should ask him what it is you do that makes him feel unloved. But if you feel you need to break up with him, maybe you should tell him what you've told us if you haven't already. If I knew someone was only staying with me because they were afraid I'd kill myself then I think I'd know that they really do care about me but maybe they're not the one.
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i would reccomend therapy to him or something, but his mom doesn't care anough to pay for it or get him there *he's getting his driving permit soon but it doesnt solve the payment issue*
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I'm just trying to help see it from his point of view. That's what I would want my boyfriend to do, but now that I think about it I'm going by the state of mind I'm in currently. There was a point not to long ago where I was also suicidal and every little thing my friends did made me feel like they didn't care. Looking back now I realize that they were really trying to help me, but honestly there wasn't much they could do. Its like when you're driving down a bumpy road, if you feel alright the bumps either don't both you or are only annoying, but if you have a headache every jerk of the car makes the pain worse. Its the same thing with depression. I did get professional help and found that it really was the right thing to do. I had insuarance at the time though, and it can get expensive. Maybe have him look into Communicare, they offer really cheap or sometimes even free mental health care.
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as far as therapy goes school counselors can often be a good place to go to if you trust/feel comfortable with them. And if not them then any competant school counselor can recomend a place where he can get free or cheap counseling.
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My sister went to Communicare and she got free counseling and she only had to pay five dollars for medicine that normally costs over a hundred. As for me, I paid for the visit and after explaining my money situation, they would give me free sample pills every visit instead of me having to go buy them from a pharmacy. This was at a regular behavioral health institute.
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i would reccomend therapy to him or something, but his mom doesn't care anough to pay for it or get him there *he's getting his driving permit soon but it doesnt solve the payment issue* look around.. call theropists and tell them your situation... they may be able to recommend someone who is free for you..