! when my 28 month old son gets angry at me or does not want to to what i tell him to do, he hits and bites me. This enrages me soo bad i feel like i want to hit him but i refuse to raise him the way my mother raised me. I am a single parent with depression and substance abuse issues in the past, i am afraid. Also i have outside help but its not helping. ANY SUGGESTIONS??? Love is not enough in this case.
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Show him his limits. Tell him what is possible and what not. Think of consequences with which you can threaten him and tell him those (e.g. no sweets, no TV). If he then doesn't stop, follow these consequences, don't melt. I agree that hitting is not a possibility because he will be even more stubborn then.
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I agree don't hit him im 21 and i have alot of resentment towards my mother because she used to punish me by hitting me when i was a kid and when i turned 15 me and my mother became awsome friends but the whole time in the back of my head to me it seemed like all of a suden she forgot she used to hit me and it makes me wonder how can she forget what she did i don't talk to her about it and ive held it in for a long time and that has caused serious depresion issues in my life and also my friendships arent as successful as i would like them to be as well as my romantic life and the built up anger causes me to lash out on people so my suggstion dont hit your son and find other ways to punish him.
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dude he's 24 month old thats domestic violence and illegal you should not even think of hitting him he even dont know what right or wrong teach him
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I have been where you are now. I have 3 children, granted their grown now and out of the house. The youngest was a terror. When he wouldn't get his way he'd throw a tantrum(kicking, screaming, biting). Well, my wife and I were at our whits end because we couldn't have anyone over or even go out for fear of the scene he would make. This is what we did and actually this is the same thing that is done on the TV show supernanny(if it is on in your area please watch as the lady is incredible with kids) Have a spot where your child is supposed to go and sit(no books, toys and etc.) and have a time limit where he/she has to stay there, this gives them time to cool off in addition to yourself. DO NOT GIVE IN and let them go early. If they get up, put them back and make them stay. Acting up is an attention getter, don't give in and don't let this continue as it will cause issues later. As for yourself, parenting is a rough road. We love each of our children more than I can write, we went through alot with all three, where we didn't know what to do All 3 went through stages throughout their lives that were tough on all of us, we put all three through college(one has a doctorate-art history?!?), saw all three married and 2 grandkids...and lost my son to Iraq. Sorry got off course, we got alot of help from a free program called parents as teachers, through our local school district. I'm sure if you ask, there is a program near you.